The upward trend we’re all hankering for in our personal growth is hard work. Mostly it looks like hours upon hours of focusing our efforts in the general direction we’re aiming for, whilst setting goals, pursuing vision and utilising the support of others.
Yet often we can feel like we’re making little progress, and the bad habits that continue to trip us up seem impossible to get over. These habits often attack us out of nowhere and they lead to the same old attitudes and behaviours that impede our progress. It’s a long road, but the benefits we experience along the way make it all worthwhile.
Personal growth is mostly an internal work and it’s always messy, difficult and challenging.
During my coaching sessions, I’ve come to discover there are three inner emotions that yap at our heels, seeking to disrupt and destroy us from achieving the personal growth we hope for.
- PRIDE – it’s been said that pride comes before the fall and it’s incredibly true. Pride entices us to feel like we’re on top of old habits and making good progress, which may be true. But in that moment of silently boasting to ourselves, we let our guard down and we slide. And when we slide, we lose momentum and progress is lost. It’s that simple and that powerful.
- ENVY – this absolutely destroys our pursuit of personal growth. Envy subtly seeks to take our eye of the ball and woos us to look over the fence at our neighbours successes. Envy (and jealousy for that matter) cause us to feel discontented about our own lives whilst we are busy comparing to another person’s status, ability or success. Envy wants us to compare with others in a bid to elevate self and increase our own personal growth. Yet, the opposite happens because we’re always worried about other people and how well they are doing.
- GREED – this is the cry of modern society: ‘more, more, more’! Greed tells us to never be content with what we’ve got. Greed causes us to seek all sorts of things that will enhance our reputation and standing. When greed is present our personal growth is limited because all we focus on is our own security and needs, when what we need to focus on is our own contentment related to our own personal growth, nobody else’s.
True life is found mostly in giving our life away.
It’s found when we serve the people around us and do all we can to propel them forward, to see others succeed and to allow them to prosper. As that happens, inevitably our own personal growth flourishes and the happiness we’re searching for appears.
Here are three antidotes to the problems above:
- Do one thing every day for someone else without expecting anything in return.
- Elevate the success of others at every opportunity.
- Practice contentment with the things you have and the situation you find yourself.
It’s part of the human psyche to desire constant personal growth, but we need to make sure the growth we’re after serves us and the vision for our lives. Growth for growth’s sake is silly.
Working through the many emotions that make our personal growth possible is an important component, and we’re here to help you do just that.
Working to mitigate these three big emotions that halt our progress is a perfect place to begin.